Releasing Resentment for the People Who Have Let Us Down........"Why You Gotta Be So Mean?"

Resentment is an insidious negative feeling.  Whatever we allow to expand becomes stronger, so having an awareness of our personal resentments is important.

A different and more healthy way to look at an event if someone let us down, is to believe that he or she missed out on the good things that happened in our lives.  This "spin" on the way we think through our past will allow room for empathy towards people we previously resented.

When we open our hearts and share love with those who love us back, love returns to us stronger and solidified.  If there are hurtful people on the outer circles of our lives that don't have pure intentions and perhaps do not have our best interests at heart, releasing resentment for them while protecting ourselves from further pain gives us the benefits of forgiveness.

Sometimes, people who have been hurt can become bitter.  Others may be in denial of how destructive it can be when people let us down and we don't process those emotions in a healthy way.  Neither of those options will allow us to live our best, most productive lives.  Bitterness or denying the past are unhealthy choices.

It is a gift to ourselves to process and work through old thoughts and events that do not serve us now. When you are able to release and resolve old resentments, you will have more room for positive emotions.

So if, as Taylor Swift says, "Someday I'll be living in a big ol' city and all you're ever gonna be is mean"; we can have the awareness of who those people are in our lives, protect ourselves, and enjoy our lives in the big ole city by releasing resentment toward our offenders.

Have a wonderful day!!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I am willing to release resentment towards others who have hurt me in the past.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.

"We Are Never, Ever, Ever.........."

Never can be harsh.  It also limits potential.  If you break up with a boyfriend and decide to "never, ever get back together", that's cool and perhaps a healthy decision.  If you say "never" to choices before you explore them, you are limiting possibilities.  

"I'm never going to be able to make this work."

"I will never have enough money to go there/buy that."

"I can never imagine being that lucky."

If it's hard to imagine good things happening to you, or hard to imagine keeping the good around you, there are ways to start changing those beliefs.   Knowing the possibility exists for your luck to change is the first step.  Hope is essential to changing beliefs.

(The hopeless and helpless men, women, and children in our society have a much harder time with change.  It makes sense, when someone continues to be surrounded by the circumstances that led them to feel that way.  My intention is not to discount groups of people who do not feel safe in their homes and/or cannot put food on the table.  That is not within the scope of this discussion.)

If you have the basics in life but wish for more, that is when the leaders of positive change might start talking about "vision boards", to make your dreams visible.  My thought process lines up with those who agree we need to incorporate what we desire in our daily lives in as many ways as we can.

If your wish is for a house by the beach, use things scented like the beach around your house now.  I used to have a small zen garden with sand and stones and a miniature rake to play with during the day.  Can you incorporate more fun in your daily life that adds substance to your dreams?  Keep positive thoughts in your conscious mind during each day.  Breathe it, feel it, see it, and taste it.  What will you be eating at your beach house?  Allow it to feel natural now, in any way you can creatively make it routine.

There are many, many small and inexpensive ways to move forward on your pathway to tremendous joy.  Is there a perfume that smells like Coppertone?  That would be fun, right?  Have you taken the time to write down what your future looks like when you are "livin' the life"?

Those who appreciate today while aiming for a better future are on the pathway to making it happen.  Gratitude and hope, plus a dash of luck, makes change possible.

Have a great day!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  Never say "never" unless you are in a dangerous situation, of course.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.