When Negative Beliefs Are Compounded, "Lean on Me"

Lack of worth, lack of self-esteem, physical and emotional abandonment issues can sometimes be tied together in strands that take time, effort, and determination to unravel.  People who have been hurt the most tend to "check out" from life.  Most cannot cope with overwhelming pain for long periods of time, it's a difficult path to travel.

However, there is always hope.  If you are alive, there is always hope.  Working on self-esteem and self-worth makes the path easier.  Once you begin to work on those issues, knowing that we are innately lovable because we were born, the pathway to healing opens.  Do you have someone to help carry your load when it gets too heavy?  

There are so many different reasons people may not feel hope.  The loss of an authority figure who loved us unconditionally can lead us to question our value.  If you were born into a situation where your parents were overwhelmed and did not know how to show unconditional love, you may feel like there is no way to change that.

The past matters to the extent that we all have to be acknowledged as human beings who are worthy and deserving of unconditional love and having our basic human needs met.  It is valuable to acknowledge the past in order to move forward.  

Empathy is important.  How can we judge someone's past if we haven't walked in his or her shoes?  Acknowledgment doesn't have to mean that we hang out in the past; but at times "we all need somebody to lean on."  You may have an underlying belief that the world would be better off without you.  Those thoughts can lead to statements like, "it doesn't matter what I do anyway, it won't work out for me".  

As always, the first step is awareness.  We all have the opportunity to create better lives for ourselves.  Step by step, your future can be better than the past with hope, effort, and determination.  You are worthy!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to have empathy for others, "we all need somebody to lean on."

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.