Remember to differentiate between not being a victim and being a survivor who has processed the negative events that have happened to you. If you have had trauma in your past and you have not processed it, it affects the way you react.
The empowerment of not considering yourself a victim is a great choice. However, if the trauma has been suppressed, without being healed, you will react negatively to the next similar situation. That is regardless of if it happens to you or someone else.
Saying the words "I choose not to be a victim" has power in itself. But if that is the only thing you are doing to get over a traumatic situation, it's like putting a band-aid over an infected body part. It festers.
There is trauma in each of our lives, but the scope and depth of trauma differs. We need to understand that before we can make changes in our society. Don't listen to someone who tells you to "get over it" if they have not had similar circumstances.
Feeling badly about ourselves for not being able to just "get over" something is extremely detrimental to mental health. It becomes a cycle that is hard to get out of by ourselves.
Know this: there is always help available when you are ready. It may not be perfect, but with perseverance and hope, it is possible to move forward in our lives.
xo
Conni
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