Jump off Everyone Else's Bandwagon and Only be in Charge of Your Own*

I was the queen of yes. If anyone called and needed a favor, I was their person. I was on the board of the homeowners association, home and school, etc. Part of me was proud of being known as the "go to" person and this is when my ego got in my own way of success. After spending years on the homeowners association, the school board and being in charge of a lot of other volunteer activities, I finally realized that there was not enough time left for me. I was helping everyone with their goals, but not helping myself with my goals.  Does this sound familiar, ladies??

I have decided to be responsible for my own bandwagon.  If I ask someone to help me out and they can't, I'm ok with that decision.  My passions are not better or worse than their passions. My dreams and goals are not better or worse than their dreams and goals. If we stretch ourselves too thin helping others, how is that allowing us to progress in our own particular goals in life?

Choosing not to be the queen of yes doesn't make me the queen of no.  It just adds a layer of discernment in my decision-making process.  I purposefully take a moment and think about what my truth is (most of the time) and if I mess up and overcommit to other peoples' goals, I regroup and sometimes call back and opt out if it's feasible.

I adore helping people, really, I do. The difference is that I now only reserve a certain amount of time for helping my friends with their passions because there are only so many bandwagons we can ride on before we are too tired to enjoy the ride.

Have a wonderful day

Xo
Conni

Today's mantra:  I intend to become thoughtful and mindful of my commitments.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.


*This blog has been edited and reposted.