Unconditional Love and Acceptance: How do we know when we have it?

Unconditional love and acceptance is the foundation of attaining personal peace.  One of the most important underlying obstacles is if people try to understand "why" bad things happen. The need to understand "why" is not accepting.  We must master acceptance before we can move forward and align with our highest and best possibilities and potential for our lives.

An understanding of someone else's motivation may provide empathy for a person's circumstances or background.  However, the NEED to understand "why" will never bring resolution to how someone else can act without the intention of unconditional love.  It creates turmoil.  If we need to understand before we can move forward, we will never move forward because we will never fully understand someone else's motivation to be hurtful or destructive.

Judging ourselves and allowing ourselves to be affected by the judgments of other people are additional obstacles to loving ourselves unconditionally.  It is easy to say we all judge because we are human, that is true.  The measurement of success in this area becomes when we know we have begun to feel less affected by judgment.  Is the power of judgement getting better or worse in your life?  That is the question you need to ask yourself.

Here is an example:  if you make an epic mistake, do your family and/or closest friends say, "I will support your efforts to fix it and make amends.  I love you even though you made this epic mistake" or "I will punish your mistake by taking away my love because you embarrassed me and made me look bad...I may agree to love you conditionally again at a later date.  I will get back to you on that based on your future performance".

Growing up with caregivers who do not love you unconditionally creates an atmosphere of never being able to fully please them. You constantly try to measure up to unattainable goals and standards.  That sets up a pattern of never fully pleasing yourself and finding friends and life-partners who will assist you in agreeing your best is not and never will be good enough.

The "fast forward" button of healing emotional wounds is being able to magnify the power of positive words and affirmations through meditation, energy work, hypnosis and therapy.  If your mind races, begin with a guided meditation or find an energy practitioner.  Since we are all imperfect human beings, why can some of us love ourselves no matter what we look like and how many mistakes we make?

It comes from within, beginning with your family practices.  If you were not born into a family that loved and accepted you unconditionally, you can choose to reverse the negative affects now by giving yourself that love, which we all innately deserve, at the moment of your conception.  Then, continue to imagine yourself as being innately lovable and acceptable through the time of your birth, and throughout each period of your lifetime.  It is a journey, but time goes by whether or not we are ready to heal our negative emotions.

Have a great day!

xo
Conni