Resistance to Change: Why We Impose Personal Structure to Keep Ourselves Safe

If you are feeling safe with all of your personal rules and regs; perhaps it is time to address whether or not your rules are still relevant here and now.  Because, many times, we apply our own rules like they are set in stone and they don't have to be......

I must do it this way (why?).......

I can't do it that way (why not?).......

We are sometimes locked into false paradigms, we hold the keys to opening new doors and we are our only guards.  If your self-talk lends itself to "I cannot, would not, should not do it that way", try to understand why you believe a choice is good or bad, right or wrong.

If you feel safer taking action a certain way, you may need to process memories that made you feel unsafe in the past.  That is how we unlock our own false belief systems.  Perhaps stepping on a crack won't break your momma's back ;)

What are your defining moments?  Self-awareness experts suggest taking a few hours to list the memories that you continue to resist and react to from your past.  If you were locked in a small space or if someone you know was hurt badly when you were young, you may have adjusted your own belief systems and activities to accommodate keeping yourself safe based on those memories.  In reality, your adult mind already knows that you have to be able to swim before you jump into the deep end; but your young mind might tell you it's safer to stay out of the water.

My cousin, who was about the same age as me, drowned when I was a little girl.  I have always had a fear of the water.  I was able to greatly reduce that fear by acknowledging and processing those childhood reactions of feeling unsafe.  Even though I don't think I will ever want to swim competitively, I know and understand my limits are based on current instead of past beliefs.

We create our own resistance to change when we have not processed previous emotional trauma.  It is worth the time and effort to take care of your emotional baggage, then we can have better lives in this moment.

Have a great day!

xo
Conni