"What Would You Think If I Sang Out Of Tune?"*

Do you have friends that would help you move; or friends that would help you move the body? Hopefully, we all have friends that would help us cover up a felony murder charge.  That's what life is all about, right?

On your best day, for instance, when you are accepting the Academy Award for Awesomeness, you have all of the friends in the world.  "Hey, remember me?  I loaned you a piece of gum in third grade and I didn't even make you pay it back.  Can I be your 'Plus One' for the after parties?"

Do you have friends you can call when the chips are down?  My wish for you is that you not only have them, but that you have a special ringtone for them when they call!!  Friendships deserve to be nurtured.  

Cognitive dissonance comes into play here, with your mind only allowing a certain amount of variance before it's too much.  It's valid and healthy to tell someone, "look, I want to be your friend, but instead of give and take this friendship feels one-sided, with my side giving the most".  In a perfect world, friendship has equal give and take.  You help them move (bodies), they help you move (bodies); and so on; and so on; and so on.

But what if you were having a bad day, a "Defcon One Meltdown" kind of day?  Would they stand up and walk out on you?  Most of us have friends, good friends, and great friends.  Hopefully our great friends would listen to us, cheer for us, create a "sky-full of lighters" requesting an encore, even if we were singing out of tune.

If we feel like we are taking more than we give, we can sometimes vent to ourselves (use a mirror or the video option on your phone) and save our friends from the details of what happened when that mean girl was nasty.  We can write letters to vent, with no intention of sending them to the person who deserves the lambasting.  Just don't throw them away without shredding them.........recycling on the curb is public property, I learned that from a crime show.

Friendship is a gift and it's always good to appreciate the gifts in our lives.   Appreciation leads to more care given.  When we feel like something is precious, we treat it differently than when we take it for granted.

Have a wonderful day!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to nurture my friendships.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.

*This blog has been edited and reposted.