Are You Keeping Score?

If you do a favor for someone, and they say "thank you", is that good enough for you?  Or do you sometimes resent others because you feel like you get the short end of the stick?  Resentment keeps you stuck, meaning your brain believes that you are being taken advantage of and you are allowing yourself to accept less than you deserve.

The facts are neutral when it comes to resentment, if you are on a strict budget and willing to give someone your last dollar and you don't resent it, go for it.  If you are a millionaire and you chose not to share other than what's required by law and your conscious is clear, no problem.  It's all a comparison of your actions vs your personal belief system.

Yes, there are groups of people to whom this doesn't apply.  If you know any narcissics, sociopaths, people that are disconnected from empathy, those groups are above my pay grade.  I'm talking about most of us, the ones who want to leave the earth better for our existence, the ones who make an effort to learn and grow.

Within your personal belief system, there is a level of elasticity before a bounce back happens, meaning whatever your boundaries are, you will only allow a certain amount of "stretch" before you snap.  Knowing your limits is the key.  

So while being generous and keeping score isn't good if the result is resentment; the opposite end of the spectrum, being a doormat without keeping score, isn't any better.  A balance of helping in areas that interest you where you believe you have excess (without keeping score), is the ultimate goal to lowering resentment. If you have extra time, donate time.  If you have extra clothes, donate clothes.

The highest goal, though, is expanding your limits where you believe in lack (I can't give this freely because there isn't enough), where you believe there aren't unlimited opportunities for change and growth. The usual techniques help when you are trying to expand your limits: meditation, energy work, etc.  You can also help yourself by having an awareness of your boundaries and what issues bring up resentment for you.  Awareness is always the first step to change.

Have a wonderful day!!

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to be aware of any resentment I am holding in my life.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.