Can You Relate to the Whack-A-Mole Game?

Have you ever felt like the mole in the whack-a-mole game?  Do you understand when people say what you are looking for from others is a reflection of the changes you have to make for yourself?

I need someone to believe in me.   (Translation)      I need to believe in myself.

I need someone to love me.           (Translation)      I need to love myself.

I need someone to nurture me.      (Translation)      I need to nurture myself.

Byron Katie uses a technique called "The Work" where she expounds on my examples 1000 different ways.  If you don't feel you are worthy enough to be nurtured, no one else will think you are worthy enough, either.  You have to work through your own issues to attract people who believe in you.  It sounds backwards, right??  That is one of the most important realizations you have to make in order to understand how to break through barriers.

When I first began, many years ago, it was like the whack-a-mole game at Chuck E Cheese sticking my head out and pulling it back, over and over again. 

"I need help. I need help."

"I'm not worthy, I'm not worthy". 

"Yes I am. Yes I am"

"They don't think so. They don't think so"

"Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter"

And so on, and so on, and so on.

I kept looking outward wondering how can I be deserving if they don't think I'm deserving.  I tried to prove myself to people who would never believe I was deserving, regardless of what I did.  I fought for things with the outer me believing I deserved them; but the inner me (subconscious), not so much.  The external image of people who consider themselves undeserving can totally mask the inner demons in the short term; however the inner demons will create self-sabotage and you start "getting in your own way" in the long term.

Now my self talk is.........Why am I worthy?  Because I was born.  Why am I deserving?  Because I was born.  Why am I enough?  Because I was born.........most of the time, anyway.  You get the idea.

Ahhhh, when the whack-a-mole is conquered, there is so much relief and our energy becomes focused on positive solutions.  Knowing that you are "enough" changes your entire life.   When you get past the public persona of anyone, that is where the truth begins.  The end game is to reflect positive beliefs back to yourself.  Put down the mallet and stop beating yourself up.  We want to nurture the mole, not whack it!!  Coming soon to a Chuck E Cheese near you;)

Have a wonderful day!!

Xoxo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to be nurturing and loving, releasing the need to hurt myself.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.