Opening the Floodgates :)

Whatever we resist slows down our "flow".  Resistance blocks our highest and best possibilities and potential.  We have the ability to change it through understanding and building our positive beliefs systems, beginning with the belief we are innately enough.Here's an example of how resistance affects us.....

You or someone you know has test anxiety; you are "trying so hard" to remember what you studied and it will not come to you during the test.  Maybe someone told you or you previously told yourself you were not a good test-taker.  The resistance builds with each test you take.  After leaving the testing area, the answers pop back into your head.  Most of us don't understand the insidious backlash of how resistance affects our day-to-day lives.  It holds us back from our potential like a negative force field.

Those of us who resist loving and accepting ourselves exactly as we are in this moment of time create more and more reasons why we are not quite "good enough".  If we only did better, we could love and accept ourselves.  Our negative beliefs attract more negative beliefs.  Those beliefs are the opposite of the truth.  Of course, we still need to build skills, practice, study for the test.  Everything is a combination of mind-body.  We need to work on both.

It is like having a pilot light in our bodies.  We have to begin by lighting the flame of knowing we are innately good enough just because we were born, no need to prove it with actions.  Then, we can enhance our internal flame by positively feeding the fire, but if we don't start with that positive belief, it is extremely difficult to change it.  People who show the world they are outwardly confident may or may not be confident on the inside.

Not one of us is perfect, so striving for perfection could make us feel badly about ourselves if we don't believe we are innately enough.  That is why living in the moment is powerful.  We make a mistake, make amends and move forward without beating ourselves up.  Forgiveness is incredibly powerful, but without knowing we are innately good enough, forgiveness will only take us so far.

How do we change?  On the conscious level, intentions can be effective.  "I intend to know I am good enough in this moment."  "I intend to love myself exactly as I am today."  The biggest bang for your buck is changing beliefs on the subconscious level.  That is where that little voice inside of us says..."hey wait a minute, you can't completely love yourself, remember what happened that time when you did that thing..."

We can change subconscious beliefs, our negative self-talk, with meditation, hypnosis, energy work, or focusing on our intentions to change right before we fall asleep or as we are waking up in the morning.  That is when our brains are malleable and accepting of change.  We all have the capability to change for the better.  The first steps are awareness and intention.

Have a great day!

xo
Conni

My Counsel of Heroes

Napoleon Hill’s book, “Think and Grow Rich”, is a classic for people who believe we can positively influence the course of our lives by changing thought patterns.  He used the concept of a Counsel of Heroes to focus on qualities he felt were his weak areas in his life.  Napoleon Hill used a group of men seated at his Counsel Table.  He was the chairman.  He rebuilt his own character through focusing on a composite of the characters of his counselors.  He called it "voluntary rebirth".

Here is my version of that exercise.  You might want to try it yourself.  Awareness is always the first step to change.  The Counsel of Heroes allows us to focus on our desire to move forward in certain areas of our lives....

Oprah, I wish to acquire from you and impress on my subconscious mind the qualities which enable you to inspire and arouse the population to a greater and more determined spirit of action; for my highest possibilities and potential, using pure intentions of making the world a better place.

Deepak, I wish to acquire from you the patience and ability to live in the present moment and attract people on the same path as I move toward living my heart's desires.  Your steadfast vision to improve yourself and the world inspires me to move beyond my current, self-imposed boundaries.

Martha Beck, I wish to acquire from you a thorough understanding of the principles of organized effort, which you use so effectively to manifest your dreams, to allow something greater than our current circumstances project.  You have provided me the ability to "find my own North Star". 

Tim Russet, I admire you greatly and I am still sad that I did not get to meet you in this lifetime.  I wish to acquire your spirit of persistence, poise, and self-confidence, while balancing kindness and the knowledge of how lucky you are through the Grace of God.  You life experiences were a road map to understanding how miracles can unfold for those who believe in a benevolent world.

Joseph Murphy, I wish to acquire your depth of knowledge and understanding of how to correct the direction of my thoughts.  Thank you for your gift to the world.  Your thought processes were so far ahead of your time.  

I greatly admire my heroes.  They allow me to see where I can change my intentions to create a stronger and more powerful "me".  We can choose to be strong as we become authentic, using our highest gifts and talents in the world.  If you are intrigued by the concept, I challenge you to use it in your own life.

Have a great day!

Xo

Conni

Finding Your Bliss :)

I spent last weekend with seven incredible women.  We met in a beautiful location to move toward our personal destinies as a group.  We laughed and cried.  We validated each other and gently pushed each others' awareness.  I was blessed and so grateful to be the facilitator of the group.

Unwritten
By Natasha Bedingfield

"I am unwritten
Can't read my mind
I'm undefined
I'm just beginning
The pen's in my hand
Ending unplanned

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten"

We are all "unwritten", but you have to be ready to move forward.  No one can force change upon someone who doesn't want it.  If you believe you are too old, too young, too "purple", it is untrue.  We can all redirect our lives toward our highest possibilities and potential.

To make major paradigm shifts after our belief systems have become entrenched in our minds, it is almost as if we have to cover our eyes and spin until we don't have a sense of direction, then use our intuition to guide us to our "true north".  It is possible, I promise.  We all have the ability to change our circumstances for the better.

If you don't have a group of people in your life who want the best for you, be on the lookout for members.  There is a force in the power of a group.  It can be a force toward good, or not so much.  Step by step, we can all change for the better.  It takes courage, but I believe we all have that courage inside of us.  My heartfelt "thanks" goes out to the group from last weekend.  I am forever grateful that you chose to move forward with me.

Have a great day!!

xo
Conni