Can You Imagine Bringing Home the Gold?

Have you heard the examples of how we can now accomplish things we previously believed were impossible?  On May 6, 1954, Roger Bannister set the world record for breaking the four minute mile (3 minutes, 59.4 seconds). It was incredible at the time. The Olympics make us all ponder striving for greatness. However, our minds have to accept new concepts before they can become reality.

The dreamers and creative people of the world help us embrace new ideas. Do you enjoy the concept cars at the auto show or the work of students trying to predict new generations of products? Some people follow the premise "seeing is believing", but we have to conceive it in a non-tangible form first.

There are always risk-takers who are willing and able to expand the limits of what we used to believe was possible.  When our patterns are set by repetition, it can become harder to think differently. People who are "stuck in their heads" may have a difficult time visualizing new concepts. Visualizing is a skill that can be developed. This is when it's important to let go and have no expectations other than taking some time to dream.

As you get older and your responsibilities increase, do you give up on your dreams? We all need to have new hopes and dreams to help us feel vibrant and alive. The key is to be content with our current situation while hoping for more. 

Xo

Conni

Away We Go...Finding Your Flow

We are conditioned to believe our beliefs. Each of us has a unique set of circumstances that have gotten us to where we are today. Nature / Nurture / Experiences / Sensitivities...factors beyond our understanding are contributing to our "set point" in our personal Law of Attraction magnetic force.

The most optimistic person born into this world will become fearful after living in real or imagined fear. We are who we are. The piece that many people don't fully understand is that we can change our personal happiness formula by digging deep.

When we have a reaction to something, the first thing we should do is ask ourselves "why?". Why does this bother me? If you do this for a few weeks, you can probably figure out which situations cause a major reaction. Those are what we focus on first.

Personal freedom includes becoming emotionally free. The more we know about ourselves, the more we flow. Flow is what we strive for. Internal flow is living without emotional resistance.

Misunderstanding comes into the mix when people think they are "letting go" but in reality are pushing away those feelings. When we think we are "letting go" but are not processing, those feelings can turn into hidden anger and resentment, causing internal stress.

We strive for flow. We want to acknowledge and accept emotions as they occur. That allows our bodies to reduce stress...and away we go!

xo
Conni

Secondary Emotions: What are we hiding?

In the course of what I do, I often ask the question, "if you had an emotion hiding underneath your first reaction to a situation, what would that emotion be?" For me, understanding that there is often more depth to our emotional stories led me to great personal revelations.

Secondary emotions, as discussed by Neel Burton M.D. in Psychology Today, involves feelings we are hiding, "Our emotions not only reflect and reveal our values, but also enable us to refine them. It is possible to have an emotion about an emotion, such as guilt or shame about envy, and to revise the primary emotion according to the secondary emotion or emotions.

Moreover, some of our emotions can feel clear or transparent, while others are more hazy or equivocal. For instance, our love for truth or justice is experienced as profound and authentic, whereas our resentment or disdain for a person of higher virtue or accomplishment lacks resonance and leaves us uneasy."

I personally found out I was hiding emotions. I believed I was being authentic. Upon further evaluation, I realized my less attractive emotions were immediately avoided by me as "unacceptable".

Ask yourself, "if I had an emotion hiding underneath my first reaction, what would that be?". This can lead you to amazing personal growth. I had been covering up my deeper emotions with what I considered more acceptable emotions. I didn't even realize I was doing it. I thought I was letting events "roll off my back", even when something bothered me.

We all have events that trigger us. Those events are our "red flags" to understand what we need to deal with at a deeper level. Leading an authentic life takes time and reflection. When we chose to dig deeper, new information becomes available to us.

xo
Conni