Do You Have "Fun-Envy"?

How do you react to someone else's good news or to your personal not-so-good news?  Becoming aware of these reactions can lead to emotional growth and healing.  We don't have to pretend it's a "silver lining" to take a vacation to Peoria when the rest of the gang is in Cabo.  Though we can acknowledge the fact that our resentments and beliefs about why we aren't in Cabo will give us a list of how we are feeling internally.

If you have "fun-envy" towards another person's activities, ask yourself "why".  Then, you can work on your thoughts about how comparing yourself to another person makes you react.  Here's the catch, the more important healing is truly about those deeper thoughts rather than whether or not you are a sore loser.  Although, being a sore loser (or a sore winner) is a "red flag" that there is additional work to be done to live your best life.

An example might be when you find out someone else got that promotion you wanted.  It is necessary and appropriate for the good of your career to say "congrats" to the winner.  After that, though, when you've made it home, if you take out your frustration/anger/rage on a loved one or badmouth the winner, that is an indication you believe you will not get your turn to win.  People who need to "twist the knife" with malicious intent have emotional deficits.  Not that anyone should condone bullies...but awareness helps us understand "why" bullies act out.

Alignment (with our best selves) is always about accepting "what is" in the moment and having hope and knowing that possibilities are limitless.  If that is not happening for you, the metaphysical theory is that there are negative memories and/or beliefs that have to be processed to get you back in that hopeful groove.

None of us has worked through all of our issues.  There is always more to be done.  However, each layer we "process" brings more peace and less stress to our lives.  That is the way forward.  My personal goal is to keep moving forward, knowing that I will be triggered by issues that have not yet been healed, and using those instances to target new areas of where I need to heal.

Have a great day!

xo
Conni