"We Are Never, Ever, Ever.........."

Never can be harsh.  It also limits potential.  If you break up with a boyfriend and decide to "never, ever get back together", that's cool and perhaps a healthy decision.  If you say "never" to choices before you explore them, you are limiting possibilities.  

"I'm never going to be able to make this work."

"I will never have enough money to go there/buy that."

"I can never imagine being that lucky."

If it's hard to imagine good things happening to you, or hard to imagine keeping the good around you, there are ways to start changing those beliefs.   Knowing the possibility exists for your luck to change is the first step.  Hope is essential to changing beliefs.

(The hopeless and helpless men, women, and children in our society have a much harder time with change.  It makes sense, when someone continues to be surrounded by the circumstances that led them to feel that way.  My intention is not to discount groups of people who do not feel safe in their homes and/or cannot put food on the table.  That is not within the scope of this discussion.)

If you have the basics in life but wish for more, that is when the leaders of positive change might start talking about "vision boards", to make your dreams visible.  My thought process lines up with those who agree we need to incorporate what we desire in our daily lives in as many ways as we can.

If your wish is for a house by the beach, use things scented like the beach around your house now.  I used to have a small zen garden with sand and stones and a miniature rake to play with during the day.  Can you incorporate more fun in your daily life that adds substance to your dreams?  Keep positive thoughts in your conscious mind during each day.  Breathe it, feel it, see it, and taste it.  What will you be eating at your beach house?  Allow it to feel natural now, in any way you can creatively make it routine.

There are many, many small and inexpensive ways to move forward on your pathway to tremendous joy.  Is there a perfume that smells like Coppertone?  That would be fun, right?  Have you taken the time to write down what your future looks like when you are "livin' the life"?

Those who appreciate today while aiming for a better future are on the pathway to making it happen.  Gratitude and hope, plus a dash of luck, makes change possible.

Have a great day!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  Never say "never" unless you are in a dangerous situation, of course.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.

"The Definition of Insanity"

If you are beating your head against the wall to try and make something happen, that should be a red flag to you that you need some sort of shift. A shift can be in the form of what you do, how you do it, who you do it with, where you do it, there are an incredible amount of possibilities. 

You could be doing the wrong thing, you could be doing the right thing the wrong way, it could be the wrong time, it could be the wrong group of people, it could be the wrong town, it could be the wrong set of circumstances in so many combinations.  If you are feeling frustrated, it's because you are in your own way.  

Just the knowledge that you have to pull back and create space in a frustrating situation will give you an automatic sense of relief.  First of all, why are you trying so hard to make something happen?  Digging on that question will lead you to the answer that is most likely fear based.  "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result."  Albert Einstein.

This has to happen now exactly in this way because..........(fill in this blank, please).  Why is it so urgent?  (Because if I don't do this, then that will happen)  If that happens, what's your biggest fear?  And again??  The deepest issues here could be feeling unlovable, unworthy, undeserving.  Then, ask yourself "why" you would feel that way.  Those answers are extremely important.

The root of an issue can be complicated.  You are the only expert of your personal beliefs; these answers are within you.  Families have certain patterns and being involved in different groups creates its own cultural patterns.  Combining those variables with your personal circumstances makes you totally unique.

What are you afraid of if you don't get something done now?  And more importantly, how does that situation make you uncomfortable with the person you believe that you are??  Because the uncomfortable part of you will act out and make bad choices in times of overwhelm and frustration.  So understanding yourself is the first step to releasing the disappointment and devastation of failure.

For the purposes of this discussion, this is about personal choices, not whether or not you will take care of your mandatory responsibilities: going to work; feeding the kids; paying taxes.  Relief on the personal level does, however, make your entire life less stressful.  

Have a wonderful day!!

Xo

Conni 

Today's Mantra:  I choose to realize when I am doing something repeatedly without positive results.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.