What is Resistance and How Does it Block Success?

Resistance creates a barrier between what you have and what you desire. It's trying to swim against the current instead of floating downstream. Feeling like you are not good enough creates resistance. It comes from a place of fear and actually makes it harder to change, because it feeds into expecting failure. 

When we make New Year's Resolutions and try to keep them, the underlying belief is that I am not good enough as I am today. It makes success harder to achieve because when results are not immediate, low self-esteem contributes to causing people to go back to bad habits. If you have listened to the comments of people who give up, they might say, "oh well, it wouldn't make a difference anyway". That's a sign of low self-esteem.  

Resistance acts like a pressure cooker in your mind. There is only so much it can take until things blow. We reduce resistance when we are able to love and accept ourselves exactly as we are at this moment. The goal is to have our core belief knowing innately that we are enough. With that, change becomes easier.

If we have to be perfect before we can change, it won't happen, because none of us are perfect. Accepting and loving ourselves, exactly as we are in this moment, are the first steps to creating lasting change. It can be so difficult to like or love ourselves, but it is one of the most important paradigm shifts we must make to lead our best lives.

Have a wonderful day!

Xo

Conni

Getting Out of My Own Way

People used to tell me I was in my own way.  I never understood what they meant.  Here's the scoop:  if you have the talent, skill set, and have given enough effort to your craft to be proficient, and you haven't found success; that's a clue.

For reasons that haven't surfaced or been conquered, you are stopping your own success; creating self-sabatoge.  Who would choose to do that, you ask??  None of us would choose it purposefully, but perhaps our minds have decided that success in certain areas was wrong, for hidden reasons.

If you have a test and choose not to study; if you have an appointment but don't leave enough time to get there; if you have to cook dinner but don't make it to the grocery store; those actions or lack thereof, create failure, but you realize it's going to happen and why.  

Then there are examples of hidden issues: you are finally able to take a vacation and you get sick; you are trying your best but success is still out of your grasp; you come in second place when you deserved first; you seem to always be a step behind, while using maximum effort and talent; or you achieve something and it gets taken away.   

Some try their best to diet and exercise but can't seem to lose weight.  Others get advanced degrees but can't progress in their careers.  Some attend every sports camp and practice but can't make the team.  We have all heard of test anxiety and telling sport players to get out of their heads.  Fear is part of self-sabatoge, other reasons are varied and personal.

If you are in your own way, no matter to what degree, it is possible to begin the process of change.  It can be complicated, but for now, accepting the possibility that many of us are unintentionally blocking our own success in some area is the first step.  Awareness is always the way to begin.

When you are able to get out of your own way, you begin to see small successes in your life.  This brings relief, more fulfillment and hope for a better future.

Have a wonderful day!!

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to take inventory of my life and see if I am blocking my own success.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.