Sometimes Change Can Be Lonely, Make More Friends

Have you ever tried something new, asked your friends to join in and all you hear are crickets??  Change can be lonely at times. When someone is ready to forge a new path, it's ok for friends to be supportive without wanting to walk the same path with you.

If you are going along for the ride on someone else's pathway, it makes sense that your chance of success is less than if you make a conscious decision to change.  Looking for people to share in your decision, you may need to find a new group to solidify your new healthy habit, and that's all good.  

Abraham Lincoln said, "Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing."  Everyone should be more committed to their own goals than to someone else's goals.  It would be wonderful if the group of friends you've had since high school all want to "eat clean" or exercise with you, but your friends would be less inclined to keep the commitment to change than others who had already decided on their own that they were ready.

Last year a group of us started boxing.  One by one, my friends dropped out.  The bottom line is that your friends can be supportive from the sidelines and they are not trying to sabotage you if they aren't ready to dive in with the same set of goals that you have.  It's wonderful to have a buddy that wants to do all of the same things that you do but it's not completely realistic that a group of friends all want to make the same changes at the same time. 

The Merriam-Webster definition of support is

: to agree with or approve of (someone or something)

: to show that you approve of (someone or something) by doing something

: to give help or assistance to (someone or something)

Find a new group to give you help and assistance with your goals, and allow your long-term friends to support you by showing that they approve of your decisions.  Go Team!!

Have a wonderful day!!

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to be supportive of others while working toward my own goals

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.