Staying in the Moment While Saying Goodbye

One of my very best friends is moving this week.  We have been great friends for almost 10 years and I've spent more time with her than anyone else other than family.  She will be about eight hours away by car.  I have been trying to stay "in the moment" since I found out that she and her family decided to move, but thinking about a future that is different from the past is emotional for me.  I am happy for her, moving on to better things, but sad for me.

I'd like to think I embrace change but it's always scary.  One of Craig Charles famous quotes is, "It's evolve or die, really, you have to evolve, you have to move on otherwise it just becomes stagnant."  Yes but can I change while everyone else stays the same and supports me while I'm doing that?  And who said being stagnant is bad, anyway??

OK, knowing that's not possible, here's the thing about staying "in the moment", there is no fear in the moment if you can let go of the past and the future.  Everything right now is fine, it really is, if you are breathing.  And if you aren't breathing, you probably aren't reading this anyway.  Ironically, when you concentrate on your breathing, it allows you to stay in the moment.

The fear comes with looking at the future and believing that it takes something outside of us to be whole.  That's hard to work through, knowing that we intentionally spend time with people who bring happiness to our lives.  Committing to relationships, whether they are friendships, family bonds, or marriages, mean having the purpose of putting positive energy into the relationship.  It's interesting that when you form a bond with someone, most of us never expect it to end.

We are all evolving, all changing every day, whether the circumstances are forced or not,  so we have to become comfortable with the fact that change can be uncomfortable.  In the moment, I know that I innately have everything I need to be happy within myself.  After that, having great relationships are a bonus.

Have a wonderful day.

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra: wholeness comes from within.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.