Can I Ask a Favor?

Why do we feel most comfortable with an even exchange?  When someone begins a sentence with the question "can I ask a favor", our senses heighten to be aware of what is coming next.  That is when our personal boundaries come into play.

We all have boundaries.  Part of having healthy boundaries includes an awareness of who we want to be.  We also need to maintain healthy boundaries by using our voices to be consistent with our personal limits.  We all have some leeway, however.  When boundaries are crossed, there is a certain amount of allowance for deviation.  

So when someone asks a favor, a healthy response might be "can I think about it for a minute" instead of saying "yes" without thought or consideration.  Saying "yes" right away may make it feel like we are being selfless.  But selflessness, in the long run, may be unhealthy.  

There is not one choice that makes us unhealthy, we need to look at patterns of behavior to understand ourselves.  Do you have an awareness of your patterns?  Awareness is the first step to change.  

Can I ask a favor?  It would be a great favor to me if you put more thought into how you react when someone needs something from you.  Your personal goal of how you wish to lead your life should be complimentary to your actions, most of the time.

Have a great day!!

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I intend to give thought to my decision before committing to a response.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.