Knowing Who to Trust, Hoping for Non-Judgmental, Unconditional Love

We all talk about bonding with others over similar experiences.  Some have the intuition of knowing who to trust and who not to trust when first meeting people.  Others hold back on committing to relationships until they feel more secure.

Regardless of how long it takes, there should be a point when you feel safe enough to bond with others and begin to trust and share personal experiences.  We all need to feel like we have friends and/or family who love us unconditionally and in a non-judgmental way.  

If we jump into relationships too quickly, we are becoming vulnerable with someone who might hurt us.  If we can't find someone to trust, we are holding in feelings that could become damaging if suppressed.  Human beings need to bond, to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance, in order to live our best lives.

I've been burned before, trusting someone who hurt me.  I'm sure I've hurt others, too.  If you have a pattern of trusting the wrong people (trust issues), there is internal work that needs to be done.  Whenever we realize we have negative patterns in our lives, the first step is awareness of when and why it is happening.  Journals are easy ways to keep track of your thoughts if this is an area you need to work on.

If you don't have friends that you can trust, you can regroup and rebuild.  In the meantime, try to find a professional to talk to about your feelings.  In addition, there are many low-cost options like support groups where you can vent in a confidential way.  It's never too late to start surrounding yourself with people who you can trust.  Building and maintaining healthy friendships is priceless!

Have a great day!

Xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I choose to maintain healthy friendships with those I can trust.

Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.