Relationships can be complicated. In certain relationships we might be passive, other times we are aggressive. Being true to ourselves doesn't mean we have to be abrasive. Having mostly passive relationships causes conflict in the mind-body because it leads to resentment. It is better to have an awareness of why we make certain choices.
In some circumstances, you may suppress your personal truth and hold back on declaring healthy boundaries. It happens to all of us. Authority figures can bring us to our knees and most of us resent feeling powerless. The IRS and law enforcement have power because they have the ability to take away our freedom. Other than those groups, if you are giving your power away, you might want to ask yourself "why".
In some circumstances, you may suppress your personal truth and hold back on declaring healthy boundaries. It happens to all of us. Authority figures can bring us to our knees and most of us resent feeling powerless. The IRS and law enforcement have power because they have the ability to take away our freedom. Other than those groups, if you are giving your power away, you might want to ask yourself "why".
When you're in a relationship with someone and it feels like the power is more balanced, there is a lot of room for healthy boundaries. We share, we acknowledge, we grow. We might take turns leading the way. We can speak our truth without anxiety because we feel like it will be received without the fear of being shunned.
With other relationships, we take on the role of being passive. No judgment when we accept what it is. It's about having an awareness and making a conscious choice. I have seen some passive-aggressive followers. They usually internally resent not taking a lead role. Resentment really does a number on us if it's not processed. Those who don't process these feelings might take out their aggression on others.
In a perfect world we would all respect people and their boundaries equally, but most of us treat others differently based on their status, power and title. Most of us wouldn't tell POTUS we didn't like the menu for the Inaugural Ball. We would roll with it because we are glad to be there.
When we have similar or equal status, we may push for what we want. It's good to have healthy boundaries when it's comfortable, and we can be assertive without being combative or angry. Being aware of what you are choosing and why you are making the choice will help to release the tension of not using your power.
When we have similar or equal status, we may push for what we want. It's good to have healthy boundaries when it's comfortable, and we can be assertive without being combative or angry. Being aware of what you are choosing and why you are making the choice will help to release the tension of not using your power.
Have a great day!!
Xo
Conni
Today's Mantra: I choose to be aware of when I do and don't use healthy boundaries.
Today's Mantra: I choose to be aware of when I do and don't use healthy boundaries.
Mantra for Every Day: I choose to send love to all; receiving love back multiplied in infinite proportions, creating and nurturing pathways of love.
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