Exchanging Blessings, Gifts and Deeds

If you believe that every exchange with another person has to be equal, you might be missing out.  You give, they give, it's great to have expectations of what we need from other people.  But if we look at the bigger picture, we will see that giving expansively produces global results.

Be aware of cognitive dissonance, meaning our brains will only let us get so far with unfair exchanges.  Even if you give more than what you feel is fair, resentment that builds up hurts your body internally, which is worse that not gaining at all.  If we internally decide we want exchanges to be "for the good of the world" instead of exchanging with one person, we are opening up ourselves to globally receiving.

The paradigm shift of knowing we don't have to worry about keeping score gives us the ability to release the internal conflict of equal exchanges on a personal level.  Of course, everything is more difficult with family members because those relationships are the most complicated.  With people other than family members, when we try not to take everything personally, it opens us up to greater overall possibilities.

What does it all mean?  For one thing, if we see someone in need, we don't have to go through our filters of judging whether or not we are helping or hindering someone asking for a "hand-out".  We can give just because we are in a place to feel blessed.  However, it is detrimental to give what we don't have ourselves.  So giving a donation on a credit card without the money to pay it off won't help us overall. 

The goal is to understand there is an energy exchange, give and take, between all of us.  We can give money and receive service or give service and receive money.  It only matters that we understand we all give and all take, and that is OK.  Reducing resentment is always important, so until you don't feel ok with giving to others and you stop expecting an even exchange, stop giving "until it hurts". 

Have a great day!

xo

Conni