"Consider Yourself, At Home...

...consider yourself part of the family

we don't have a lot to spare

who cares, whatever we've got we share"

Oliver

We all love to be considered "part of the family”, in fact, it is the highest compliment someone can be given (assuming you like your family).  Some people have friendships that are stronger than their family relationships.  With either blood or non-blood related family, a "family" bond is one that holds strong through good and bad, thick and thin.

It's a relief to know we can be ourselves, let our hair down, take off our "masks" and be real when we are with family.  They have our backs, we have theirs.  If I need a friend, I have one, no questions asked. Here's the catch: we all need to set healthy boundaries, even with our families.

If you have a friend or family member who has a pattern of asking for much more than you comfortably wish to give, now is the time to set a boundary.  The key is to align your values with your actions.  Then, you can feel comfortable with yourself and your resistance lowers as you get into "the flow”.  You can relax, which results in a decrease in your stress levels.  This is the place you want to be!!

If it's difficult for you to say "no", say "yes" instead.  This doesn’t mean you need to change your values to give someone what they want. Rather, you can change what you give! "Yes, of course I would love to help you.  It is my absolute pleasure!!  Although I cannot give you 'this' at this time because I don't have enough to share, I can easily help you by giving you as much of 'that' as you require because I have it in abundance.”  

Many people believe that the best gift to offer is money, but sometimes money isn’t necessarily what a person actually needs the most.  Can you give the gift of time? The gift of listening? The gift of a helping hand with a chore?  If you are a "math whiz', can you help him or her set up a budget?  If you are a great cook, can you share a meal?

As we align our values with our actions and our resistance decreases, we can allow more happiness into our own lives.  If you can do a “deep clean” of your life and get rid of cases where you regret giving more than you feel comfortable, you have room in your life to accept more abundance! Happiness attracts abundance, so by having comfortable boundaries, we have even more to give! When we feel a lack of something in our lives, it can show up as lack of confidence.  That is why it is so very important to make sure our intentions are pure.

If your pure intention is to help someone, just make sure you are not hurting yourself by helping others.  Give the gifts you have in abundance with love and more abundance will come to you as a result.

Have a great day!

xo

Conni

Today's Mantra:  I choose to set healthy boundaries with everyone, including family, and I offer gifts that I have in abundance.