Trust and Vulnerability In Relationships

"'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections"
John Legend

Trusting anyone with our imperfections involves a measure of faith.  Since we can't live in someone else's pocket, we have to trust.  When we open ourselves up and make ourselves vulnerable, it's freeing and terrifying at the same time.  Freeing, because we can be our authentic selves; and terrifying because if we choose the wrong person to trust, the downward spiral (after betrayal is revealed) is more painful than if we didn't open ourselves up at all.

Too much honesty during new relationships may be misunderstood.  We all have layers and our "first meeting" layer should be protective.  But after we know there is potential for a relationship to expand, being authentic saves time and heartache.  When we begin to love ourselves unconditionally (which is a basic principle of a happy life), others will be attracted to our positive sense of self.

If you've jumped into relationships too quickly in the past, now is the time to shift that pattern.  No need to be a relationship overachiever.  Sometimes I'm good at reading first impressions accurately and sometimes I'm not good at it......

When we learn, step by step, that someone is trustworthy, we need to treat the relationship like gold.  Adding more and more trustworthy people into our lives allows us to become vulnerable and that is the only way we will live our best lives.  We must love ourselves unconditionally and surround ourselves with others who love us unconditionally, too.

When you are ready, allow your authentic self to shine!!  Your light will attract more of the same.  You will have more meaningful relationships and you will bring more joy to your own life and the lives of others :)


Have a great day!!

xo
Conni