The Three Bears, The Three Pigs and The Rest of Us......

Knowing what is "just right" is a good goal to have.  If you recall the story of Goldilocks, one bed was too soft, one was too hard, and the last one was perfect for her.  Once you know what is metaphorically "just right" for you in life, you need to make sure you have a solid foundation of confidence.

In the story of the three little pigs, one believed the easiest way to build a house was with straw, but throwing together some straw doesn't last as well as the brick when someone is trying to blow your house down.

Right and wrong, good and bad are all ways to decide the perfect choice for ourselves as humans in this "Earth School".  The problem is when we use personal criteria of right, wrong, good, bad, yes and/or no to choose what is the best decision for other people.  On some level, we all march to the beat of different drummers.  Some of us just do it more blatantly than other humans.

As parents, wanting our kids to be unique while asking them to conform often has an underlying issue attached to finances, which is fear-based for almost all of us.  As George Bailey said in It's A Wonderful Life, "(money) comes in pretty handy down here", and we were taught that conforming is the most likely way to end up financially solvent.  It may sound more freeing to allow our kids to miss school or practice whenever they feel the need, but test scores and playing time lead to scholarships so "going with the flow" for children seems impossible unless it can be scheduled in their free time ;)

Once we become self-sufficient adults, it is a competition between "me, myself and I".  I must love myself, be proud of myself for exactly who I am and know that my personal best is enough.  That is the foundation for self-worth and confidence.  The pigs who built their houses out of straw and sticks might think their structures are secure on the outside but as we all know, the wolf easily blows them down.  As in the story of the three little pigs, we all must have a solid foundation to weather the ups and downs of life.

If your teachers, care-givers and/or parents didn't "get you" or support you as a child, you probably need to strengthen your internal confidence.  As non-perfect adults, it is possible that teachers, care-givers and/or parents encourage children who remind them of themselves.  It's not conscious, it's human nature to like and encourage similar personalities (or "mini-me's").  The personality types who are outside the comfort level of mainstream adults miss out on mainstream affirmations.

When we are old enough and wise enough to really, truly love ourselves for exactly who we are, that is the moment in time when our efforts become noteworthy.  Making effort on the basis of someone else's criteria is a road leading to nowhere in this game of life.  For myself, growing up as a "dreamer" didn't fit my family's pragmatic paradigm...it took me a while to figure that out.

The good news is that it's never too late to find out who you are and what "floats" your personal boat. Each day is a new opportunity to uncover the layers of your personality you may have hidden to conform, as a child or as an adult.  Your personal best must include your hidden layers, because those hidden layers may be hiding part of your brilliance.  The world needs each and every person's brilliance to evolve and you deserve the best life has to offer!

Have a great day!!

xo
Conni